Last updated on May 5th, 2023 at 04:46 pm
Yesterday, I, Krystal Joseph had gone for a class and I was very shy with my Soumya aunty who was teaching me. She was a family relative yet I was too shy to talk to her.
Some weeks before, I had gone to collect my result card to my school. My class teacher told my parents, I don’t talk to my teacher.
She also said I talked a lot to my friends but I never come to her if there is a reason to express.
Also a few weeks back, I had gone to Dandeli forest with my father’s Israeli Krav Maga Self Defence Academy members.
There my father told me not to be shy and speak boldly to everyone. But there I controlled my shyness a little and talked to some of them sometimes.
Why am I, a girl-child shy with people?
- Maybe I do not know what subject to talk to them about …
- Sometimes I also feel what would they think about me …
- Since it was not my house, I was not comfortable to talk …
How can I change this?
Same as girl-children, even boy-children are also shy. I will have to find reasons to talk to my teachers. Maybe to talk about something in our mind, for example, sometimes I wish my teacher on her birthday or any other day. But I need to talk to them more than just a few days.
Usually, I worry about what will people think about me, if I say something that they would not like to talk about. So maybe I need to ask them what they want to talk about and I will talk to them about that.
And finally, I will have to think that why should I feel shy, when it is my school classroom or my relative’s house or any other place. It’s my mind that will make me feel comfortable no matter where ever you are.
How does talking matter in Girl-Child Safety?
My father always says that I must not be shy when something bad is happening with me especially with known people. He just asked me if I am shy in front of my teacher, aunty and some other adults, how can I speak up for my safety?
So I answered, if they are doing any bad thing with me I will shout and not be afraid or shy. But if even then I am still shy or afraid, I will forget all the fear and shyness inside me and scream and fight back with all my energy for my safety.
How did I change being afraid of my parents into being a friend with my parents?
Previously I was very very scared of my parents, I used to keep looking at his/her angry face and angry eyes and be frozen in fear!!! But presently, I understood if I talk to my parents, without being frozen or scared, I will get the solution for my problems.
The parents also must change the way they treat their children, by listening to the children’s problems and issues.
You must tell your parents that you need to speak a serious matter with them and they must not scold or get crazy after listening to that.
They can advise the children but too many angry comments are not good for the health and relationship.
Instead of shouting or scolding, the fastest way to understanding the problem of your children is only through talking to each other.
Allow your parents to make mistakes and you should forgive them. I do… sometimes. 😉
Krystal Joseph
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About Ms. Krystal Joseph
- Corporate Workshop - Amazon India, Bengaluru (ONLINE)
- Corporate Workshop - Larsen & Toubro, Bengaluru
- Women Day Workshop - South Indian Railways, Hubballi
- Kids Workshop - The Baale Mane, Gorurpura
- Kids Workshop - Needbase Happy Home School, Bengaluru
- Kids Workshop - DAV school, Hubballi
- Kids Workshop - Kendriya Vidyalaya, Hubballi
- Video Shoot - Unacademy, Bengaluru
- In Dharwad, Karnataka, Ms. Joseph was the youngest Krav Maga Israeli Military Civilian Self Defense Instructor.
- 2018 awardee of the iTeachPower.in Instructor award
- Krystal began training in Krav Maga Self Defense at the age of six.
- In this Krav Maga Boot Camp training with older opponents, Ms. Krystal was the youngest participant.
- Ms. Krystal Joseph serving as Franklin Joseph's assistant instructor in a TEDx Talk on the topic of combat science.
- She has participated in a number of capsules with other trainees, including the Anti-Assault Capsule in September 2018 and the Shiv Weapon Capsule in February 2020.
- Ms. Krystal led multiple online training sessions for Bengaluru-based children, women, and men during the Covid pandemic.
- Krystal Joseph served as the primary trainer for Mr. Kautak's Krav Maga Self Defense course in Dharwad in the month of August and September 2021.
Ms. Krystal Joseph participated in a number of Krav Maga Israeli Military Self Defense boot camps, including
- Year 2012 - October 29-30 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad, Karnataka, India
- Year 2013 - April 27-28 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India
- Year 2013 - July 07-08 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India
- Year 2013 - October 05-06 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India
- Year 2014 - March 29-30 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India
- Year 2014 - July 26-27 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Goa, Goa, India
- Year 2016 - May 21-22 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India
- Year 2016 - August 13-14 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Goa, Goa, India
- Year 2018 - May 19-20-21 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India
- Year 2022 - July 23-24 - Krav Maga Boot Camp, Dharwad & Dandeli, Karnataka, India