Why am I, a Girl-Child shy to talk to others?

Yesterday, I had gone for a class and I was very shy with my Soumya aunty who was teaching me. She was a family relative yet I was too shy to talk to her.

Some weeks before, I had gone to collect my result card to my school. My class teacher told my parents, I don’t talk to my teacher.

She also said I talked a lot to my friends but I never come to her if there is a reason to express.

Also a few weeks back, I had gone to Dandeli forest with my father’s Israeli Krav Maga Self Defence Academy members.

There my father told me not to be shy and speak boldly to everyone. But there I controlled my shyness a little and talked to some of them sometimes.

Why am I, a girl-child shy with people?

1. Maybe I do not know what subject to talk to them about …
2. Sometimes I also feel what would they think about me …
3. Since it was not my house, I was not comfortable to talk …

How can I change this?

Same as girl-children, even boy-children are also shy. I will have to find reasons to talk to my teachers. Maybe to talk about something in our mind, for example, sometimes I wish my teacher on her birthday or any other day. But I need to talk to them more than just a few days.

Usually, I worry about what will people think about me, if I say something that they would not like to talk about. So maybe I need to ask them what they want to talk about and I will talk to them about that.

And finally, I will have to think that why should I feel shy, when it is my school classroom or my relative’s house or any other place. It’s my mind that will make me feel comfortable no matter where ever you are.

How does talking matter in Girl-Child Safety?

My father always says that I must not be shy when something bad is happening with me especially with known people. He just asked me if I am shy in front of my teacher, aunty and some other adults, how can I speak up for my safety?

So I answered, if they are doing any bad thing with me I will shout and not be afraid or shy. But if even then I am still shy or afraid, I will forget all the fear and shyness inside me and scream and fight back with all my energy for my safety.

How did I change being afraid of my parents into being a friend with my parents?

Previously I was very very scared of my parents, I used to keep looking at his/her angry face and angry eyes and be frozen in fear!!! But presently, I understood if I talk to my parents, without being frozen or scared, I will get the solution for my problems.

The parents also must change the way they treat their children, by listening to the children’s problems and issues.

You must tell your parents that you need to speak a serious matter with them and they must not scold or get crazy after listening to that.

They can advise the children but too many angry comments are not good for the health and relationship.

Instead of shouting or scolding, the fastest way to understanding the problem of your children is only through talking to each other.

Krystal Joseph

KRYSTAL JOSEPH

My name is Krystal Joseph, born 2002, youngest Krav Maga Self Defense Instructor in Dharwad & Hubballi, Karnataka. I am also the head of the youth wing of https://www.iTeachiPower.in campaign.

FRANKLIN JOSEPH

Social Entrepreneur, C.E.O. & Specialist –
Indian Institute of Strategic Threat-Intelligence Analysis & Combat Tactical Science

Specialist Guru-ji Franklin Joseph is a Social Entrepreneur, Founder and C.E.O. of Indian Institute of Strategic Threat-Intelligence Analysis & Combat Tactical Science (I.I.S.T.A.C.S.), Dharwad. The main organization – I.I.S.T.A.C.S. have various projects that focus on empowering the men, women and children to prevent, avoid or escape from crime, violence, sexual harassment and sexual abuse. Some projects are Franklin Joseph Krav Maga Self Defence Academy, Power To Women Corporate Workshops & iTeachiPower.in Girl Safety & Self Defence Wellness Workshops for Schools and Colleges.

Franklin Joseph Krav Maga Self Defence Academy,Bengaluru, Hubballi & Dharwad

In 2007, he migrated to Karnataka & founded Franklin Joseph Krav Maga Self Defence Academy, where he merges the Israeli Military Krav Maga Self Defence tactics with knowledge of Combat Science, Guerrilla Hit Run Deception strategy, Neurobehavioural Crisis Management, Conflict Situational Awareness, De-escalation Drills along with some aspects of Rapid Action Cognitive Linguistic & Body Language, Criminal Profiling and Crime Psychology, etc., added to his methodology of self-defence training.

Mr. Franklin Joseph started his Krav Maga training in 2003 under Mr. Vicky Kapoor, Chief Instructor of Krav Maga in India. He was internationally certified as a Senior Civilian Maga Self Defence Instructor (2003 batch) and was the Regional Director of the International Krav Maga Federation (‘IKMF’) at Bangalore from 2007 onwards till 2012. He had also trained under and was certified by the Grand Master Avi Moyal, Chief Instructor, IKMF, Israel and has attended countless workshops by Krav Maga legends & stalwarts like Grand Master Eyal Yanilov, Chief Instructor, KMG, Israel, Master Shlomi Moyal, Master Gabi Noah and Master Amnon Darsa etc. Now, he founded & run an independent organization – Franklin Joseph Krav Maga Self Defence Academy in Bengaluru, Hubballi and Dharwad.

‘Guru-ji’ and ‘Dr. Safety’ are honorary alias given to him by his Krav Maga Self Defence practitioners. He also added Ninja Kubaton Pressure Points Self Defence in his Krav Maga capsules to help promote its unique and amazing tactics.

Franklin Joseph Power To Women Corporate Workshops& iTeachiPower.in Girl Child Safety Workshops

Mr Joseph has conducted 400+ Power to Women Self Defence Workshop for Corporate Women from Jaipur, Delhi, Hyderabad, Bengaluru, Chennai etc. He has also been invited as guest lecturer on Girl-Child Self Defence in various schools and colleges all over India.

Franklin Joseph’s ‘iTeachiPower.in’ Girl Safety Empower and Mentoring Girls project is in its pilot stage and will soon be implemented with help from school and college students in Karnataka.

Franklin Joseph’s Award, Achievement,Recommendations & Clientele

In 2017, Franklin Joseph’s Krav Maga Self Defence Academy was granted ‘Best Service Excellence Award 2017’ by Luxury Travel Magazine, London, United Kingdom.

Mr. Franklin Joseph has imparted his training as an Assistant Instructor with National Security Guard (N.S.G.) or Black Cat Commandos.

He was also the Senior Krav Maga instructor training the I.P.S. & I.A.S. probationers officers in SVP National Police Academy, Hyderabad. He has also trained Krav Maga Self Defence to women personal of the Hubballi-Dharwad Police.

United States of America Department – O.S.A.C. organization’s Indian Women Safety Report 2014 stating a recommendation -“Franklin Joseph is a good Self Defence instructor that also focuses on psychological empowerment in his workshops”.

Mr. Joseph was honorarily awarded a plaque for his commitment towards women entrepreneurship and economic empowerment by Government of Karnataka in ThinkBig 2016 Women Entrepreneurs Convention Exhibition.

Among Franklin Joseph prestigious clients include Government of India Indian Railways, Defence Research Development Organization (D.R.D.O.), Hindustan Aeronautics Limited (H.A.L.) and Bangalore Commissioner of Police along with Vanitha Sahayavani NGO.

Franklin Joseph workshops have been conducted in more than 100 corporate PAN India clients includes Titan, Tata, Infosys, Wipro, NASSCOM, eBay – PayPal, GE, COLT, HARMAN, Alcatel-Lucent, DELL, CISCO, HP, Quadcomm etc.

He has been guest lecturer in many universities and colleges like Indian Institute of Management – Bengaluru, National Institute of Technology – Trichy, SIES College of Arts Science and Commerce – Mumbai, SRM Institute of Science and Technology – Chennai, Mithibai College & Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology – Mumbai, Christ & Jain University – Bengaluru etc.

Experiences that forged Franklin Joseph’s spirit

Mr. Franklin Joseph was born into the slums of New Delhi, India, and from an early age, he was unwillingly exposed to some elements of sexual abuse and violent crime. After surviving 22-25 years in street violence and abusive circumstances, he gradually converted his bad experiences into positive knowledge. Today many of his projects have their base in what he learned from his grass-root level experience from crime, violence & abuse from his past merged with cutting edge scientific knowledge & skill set he has acquired since then.

In his TEDx talk video, he showcases his dark humour, skills and knowledge of ‘Combat Science’ with a jaw-dropping opening line “I See Dead People” indirectly referencing to the fact that lack of preparation against crime could be a fatal mistake. He is voluntarily self-retired after 11 years of working in the IT industry as a Creative Director, Project Manager, Senior Website Designer and Search Engine Optimization Specialist.

He also worked as a freelancer with Mr Kailash Satyarthi, Nobel Peace Prize Winner 2014 for 7 years when his quest to educate others to help them understand and deal with crime and violence was born.

Franklin Joseph’s Modern yet Radical Approach

Mr Franklin Joseph, in essence, represents the changing face of self-defence especially women self-defence education. He is among the pioneers who have recognized just as crime is dynamic, changing and adapting, so too should crime prevention methodology and fighting tactics. He has tirelessly, and often at a great personal sacrifice to his financial growth or his family life, overcome enormous hurdles to advance the cause of helping improve safety for men, women & children. No matter what the cost, he is clear that he will achieve his mission of a safer world through proper education, training and a holistic approach to self-defence.

Press, TV & New Media presence of Franklin Joseph

Franklin Joseph has been featured in various articles or videos showcasing his goal of a safe world, free of abuse and crime, especially for girl-child and women. Some media names are Times of India, Hindustan Times, Bangalore Mirror, DNA, Deccan Herald etc., Magazines like Tehelka, 080 Bangalore, Bengaluru Pages, LiveMint.com, GlobalPost.com, TimeOut Bengaluru etc., TV shows and News Channels like ZeeTv, CNN-Ibn, NDTV 24×7, TV9 News, Swarna Channel, Aaj Tak, Headlines Today, Times Now etc.